When the Certainties Fail Us: Spiritual Direction for Recovering Evangelicals

When I was 10 my family moved from our small New England town to the suburban sprawl of Colorado Springs. We quickly joined a mega church and reformed fundamentalism washed into our lives like hurricane, wiping out our simple family faith practices and replacing them with the debris of 500 years of culture wars, systematicContinue reading “When the Certainties Fail Us: Spiritual Direction for Recovering Evangelicals”

From Reformed to Rohr: how a good girl with all the answers found God in all the wrong places

I first encountered Father Richard Rohr few years ago in podcast form. My children were still toddlers and the gym was my one hour of silence to listen to something that wasn’t pbs kids and to think my own thoughts uninterrupted. I stretched out on a yoga mat after my workout, my earbud headphones dangling downContinue reading “From Reformed to Rohr: how a good girl with all the answers found God in all the wrong places”

Some Light Blinds, Some Illuminates: I Once Was Right But Now I See

In the chaos of upended routines and travel and summer heat, words have been coming to me fast and wild, unplanned reflections and questions and poems born out of a swirling cacophony of new experiences and ideas crashing into old rhythms and assumptions. Like pouring from a full pitcher, each time inspiration struck the flowContinue reading “Some Light Blinds, Some Illuminates: I Once Was Right But Now I See”

Selah, child of light

For years I have said that miscarrying our tiny Selah was the beginning of the end of faith for me. In the days after that very worst day, family and friends reached out with words of comfort, with meals, with stories of their own loss. Tangible, vulnerable acts of kindness that made me feel lessContinue reading “Selah, child of light”

An Imprinting of Love: How to Be Gentle With Your Kids and Yourself (at the Spiritual Parent)

I was nine when we moved from our small New England town to the suburban sprawl of Colorado Springs. Everything was bigger there. The houses, the churches, the mountains, somehow even God was larger, more real, more present. Christianity had been an important part of our family culture before, but now it took center stage.Continue reading “An Imprinting of Love: How to Be Gentle With Your Kids and Yourself (at the Spiritual Parent)”

curiosity in the face of fear

I grew up in an conservative christian community, proudly intolerant of all outsiders. From a young age I learned to look at these “others” with a mix of fear and pity – fear that their “lifestyles” would infect mine if given the slightest chance, pity that they were so committed to their hell-bound “worldly” ways.Continue reading “curiosity in the face of fear”